DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife and I have had a happy marriage but I am haunted by thoughts of her with her old boyfriend.
I am 70 and we met when we were 16. She dumped me after two years for another lad. I was devastated but it was my fault for putting my mates first.
She came back to me 18 months later. We married and have four wonderful children and six grandchildren.
I recently found a box in the loft and in it was a letter from her ex, saying how much he loved her.
Suddenly all the hurt and pain I felt when she dumped me came flooding back.
She says she cannot remember the time before we married and nothing sexual ever happened between them but I can’t listen to old Sixties music any longer, and the thoughts are in my head from the moment I wake.
DEIDRE SAYS: Remind yourself you split because you were a neglectful partner, and that you then had no rights over her.
Every time those thoughts bubble up, paint over them with your best memories of marriage and family life, and ask your wife for a loving hug in the here and now.
Credits: The Sun
Deidre Sanders
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