DEAR DEIDRE: MANY men being treated for cancer lose their libido but it’s had the opposite effect on me. The sad thing is, my wife doesn’t want to know.
I’ve been happily married for 40 years. I’m 62 and I’ve got an incurable cancer. I feel OK at the moment but I’m not sure how long I’ve got left.
My wife is 57 and went off sex some years ago. We are tactile and kiss and cuddle, which is great, but the sex has gone. She says she can’t force it because it would feel wrong, and I’d have to agree with her there.
It all changed at around the time of her menopause. I just find it heartbreaking that I may never have sex again.
DEIDRE SAYS: Facing the end of life means this is a challenging and sad time for both of you, but you can still enjoy loving intimacy together without putting pressure on her.
Tell your wife how much you miss being physically loving. My e-leaflet on Couples Massage explains how you can reignite good feelings through touch, kissing and caressing.
You can both find understanding through Macmillan Cancer Support (macmillan.org.uk).
Credits: The Sun
Deidre Sanders
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