‘I Don't Regret Cheating On My Husband—Here’s Why’

If your relationship feels rocky, it might not take much to push her into another man’s bed. Every woman has her own personal reason for cheating—but infedility doesn’t always leave her feeling sorry. In fact, these women hooked up with other men and felt zero guilt. Here’s their take on cheating without regrets.

Married too young
“I got married at 24 to a person I didn’t love, but settled for, because everyone was putting pressure on me to tie the knot. My family told me that I should focus on marriage instead of a career and my friends were almost all married (we’re from the South and that is just what people do). Our marriage was dead on arrival, and we just clung to each other because we didn’t know what else to do. Three years in, I met someone else at work, and we had an affair. My husband found out and it was the catalyst that helped us both go on with our lives without each other.”  —Sherry D., 34

Wasn't in love
“I don’t regret cheating because I didn’t love the person I cheated with. I slept with a guy I met out one night at a club in Miami when I was celebrating a girlfriend’s birthday. In my eyes, it wasn’t a big deal because there wasn’t an emotional connection. It was just sex. If I loved him, then I would be cheating with more than just my body. I’ve been married for four years, and I truly love my husband. I don’t plan on telling him because I don’t want to ruin our marriage over a person I don’t care about at all.”  —Raquel D., 31 


Wanted revenge
“What comes around goes around. I found out my husband was cheating with a neighbor, so I cheated back. I wanted to hurt him like he hurt me. When my husband walked in on us, he was shocked. I saw him cry, but it felt good to get him back for the pain he caused me. Obviously, we ended up getting a divorce, and I was fine with that.” —Luciana F., 41


Went to therapy
“My husband and I hadn’t slept together in two years. I needed sex, so I slept with a stranger. Cheating actually helped me realize that I needed to do something about our sex issues. I never told my husband about the affair, but I decided it was time to go to couples therapy and sort out our lack of sex. After going to therapy, we started trying new things in bed and making it a priority to have alone time together. Our relationship has never been stronger. I don’t regret cheating because I feel like I had to do it for us to get to the place we are at now.” —Erin D., 31

Bored
“I was tired of being a stay-at-home mom who wasn’t treated well by her husband. My husband never called me beautiful and practically ignored me. I ended up secretly dating a guy that lived in the neighborhood and was recently divorced. It was my adventure, and it made me feel good about myself. The side guy knew about my husband and didn’t care. He wanted a girlfriend without all the attachment that came with it, so it was a mutual agreement. When my husband walked in on us one afternoon, he screamed that he wanted a divorce and I was okay with that.” —Charlene W., 45



(Men's Health)